A few years ago, I found myself at a crossroads. My marriage was falling apart and I grappled with the daunting prospect of becoming a single mom. The tension was palpable, and it was affecting us all, especially our children. Yet, deep down, I knew I wanted something better for my family. Having experienced my own parents’ divorce at a young age, I understood the impact it could have on kids. But I also believed that our story could be different.

Our journey, like many, started with love and happiness. We met, fell in love, and married within two years. Our early days were filled with joy and connection. We were madly in love and wanted to spend every minute together. But as our family grew, so did the challenges. The responsibilities of raising three children shifted my focus, leading to feelings of frustration and unappreciation on both sides. My husband was a firefighter, working 48-72 hour shifts and encountering unimaginable tragedy and trauma on the job. He didn't know how to process and handle it, which resulted in extreme anger most of the time.

When he was home, he was disconnected and uninvolved. Counseling sessions provided temporary relief, but things always went back to "normal".

Just when we were on the brink of giving up, God intervened. I was invited to church and they were offering a three-day course on saving marriages. Though hesitant, my husband eventually joined me, and it seemed like a miracle with our marriage back on track.

We learned to fight effectively and communicate better. My husband even got voted "most changed" during the retreat. The change was short lived however, and my husband returned to his normal behavior.

Fortunately during that time, God had ignited a fire of change in me. I was desperate to be happy regardless of how my husband chose to behave. I made a decision to choose to be happy and stay in my marriage so my children would grow up in a happy loving home.

I realized that change starts from within. I stopped complaining and started focusing on positive actions and thoughts. Through books, CDs, the Bible, and embracing personal growth, I began to transform. As I changed, so did my perspective on my husband, marriage, and all my relationships. The shift was profound.

As I was changing, growing and becoming happier, my husband's actions became progressively worse. He was trying to get the same reactions out of me that had been our pattern. But God had transformed my heart, thoughts and actions. I was happy and no circumstances, behavior or bad attitude from my husband was going to affect that.

About 8 months into my journey, my husband came to me and said he wanted a divorce. He knew this was a trigger for me and he was trying to get a reaction out of me. I was devastated, but also calmly at peace because I knew no matter what happened or what decision my husband made, God was going to take care of me and I was going to be happy.

I was able to calmly say to him "I'm sorry that's the decision you want to make, it's not what I want for our family but I can't control what you do. I just want you to know that I am going to be happy and you are going to miss out. I love you and I want you here and happy with us. You get to make your own decisions but just know I don't agree with it and I think you'll be sorry when you see what you're missing out on." I walked in the bathroom and had a mini meltdown moment but I also had a sense of peace and knowing that God was in control.

My husband didn't leave that day or any day after that. He came to me after a few hours and said "I don't know what you're doing or why you're so happy, but I want what you have. Can you help me?"

That was the turning point in our relationship. It wasn't easy and it didn't happen over night, but today, my husband and I face challenges together with renewed respect and appreciation for each other. He truly is my best friend, and our bond is stronger than ever.

Since that time, I have helped hundreds of women transform their marriages and find true happiness, even if their husbands were unwilling to try.

If you once felt the spark of love, I believe it can be reignited. I’m here to show you that it’s possible to turn a hopeless marriage into a happy one.